MT-Mentoring path: Building autonomy step by step, Housing

Each mentoring path is singular, and this is part of its richness. Therefore, no structured mandatory activities will be suggested for the 9 sessions of mentoring. Instead we propose to give suggestions for LCP and mentee to consider and to implement, with the flexibility and adaptation that are needed.


For this meeting, the suggestion is for the LCP to focus on discussing:

Part A

    • Review of the previous sessions’ experiences – major positive elements, what needs change/improvement, emotional state of mind during and after the sessions,
    • Help develop a doable action plan and support its implementation (regarding the topics addressed so far): give support on identification of objectives, signalization of initiatives/actions, definition of major steps to accomplish objectives, definition of monitoring strategies.
    • Provide constructive feedback
    • Identify strengths and achievements and explore options
    • Coach on specific areas of difficulty/needs if need
    • Create opportunities for mentees to gain experience


Part B

    • Housing

a. Wishes, priorities, possibilities and opportunities

b. Support to

i. develop intrapersonal reinforcement strategies regarding the process of searching, choosing, and renting/buying a house

ii. identify major goals, challenges and opportunities related to the choices made by the mentee

iii. build a plan and to operationalize the strategy chosen

iv. build and implement an efficient house searching strategy

A. Dealing with Closure

a. Prepare closure,

b. Expect unexpected reason to closure,

c. Be open to eventual need of support further on…



B. Housing


  1. Identifying the most important characteristics of a house for the mentee

Justification: Previous to any exploration of housing possibilities/opportunities it is important to know what the mentee wishes for his/her accommodation. One dynamic way to do it, which will also be relevant for the mentee to use when pursing housing opportunities, is to ask him/her to prepare a 5 lines document with the key elements a house must have. The LCP should help prepare this document and, additionally, to support mentee’s reflection on what he/she wishes a house to have and the main reasons why.


  1. “Going for it!” – Plan a strategy to find your house (or other accommodation)

Justification: For many ageing out children the most difficult component of housing is not, necessarily, the identification of the “accommodation” they wish to have but to plan and implement an efficient strategy to actively find it and maintain it. This activity is, in its essence, the development of the first stages of this strategy – to have a doable action plan for housing seeking. To do it, mentee and LCP need to decide the template they wish to use (on scenario paper, on computer program – word, Power Point, directly in a A4 sheet, by post-it that will be glued together and after an organized document will be produced). With LCP’s support, mentee will identify major goals, challenges and opportunities related to housing. A strategy with the operationalization of the actions chosen. During the implementation of the strategy, the plan should be regularly monitored and updated.


  1. “Intrapersonal reinforcement strategies”: Simulation of difficult, emotionally challenging and positive situations regarding housing search issues”.

Intrapersonal rewarding from the mentee to him/herself could be: “Very well! I am amazing”! or “I nailed it! I will reward myself with a movie with friends!”

Justification: This session is particularly challenging for the majority of the mentees. It is essential that the mentee develops strong intrapersonal reinforcement strategies to cope with all these challenges in an assertive way. To train this skill we propose that LCP and mentee practice, using simulation techniques, different situations, reactions and outcomes – the main goal is to reinforce acceptance, positive coping styles and the mentee strengths.


4. Final evaluation of the mentoring journey and closure: LCP and mentee will discuss the achievements, challenges, difficulties and strategies to overcome them, among all other issues they decide to bring up during this assessment discussion.  The LCP will focus on positive and constructive feedback and suggestions for further enhancements and improvements.  A strategy for punctual follow up and/or help must be put in place.